Well, here's Natasha Pearlman again, complaining that being a fulltime mom doesn't make her happy. There follows a long litany of mommy-wars style guilt with a full barrage of 'I', 'me' and 'my'.
Natasha really wants to be happy.
[Don't we all-Ed]
Bottom line, Natasha wants to work.
But here's the kicker. Despite freelancing and working from home, Natasha still uses childcare:
Since then, I have had to acknowledge a strange truth: that being with my daughter every day doesn't bring me, or her, the happiness and fulfilment I had hoped for.
I now know that the one thing that keeps me sane and calm — and allows me to love Rose so completely — is spending some time apart from her.
That is why I have decided to keep my full-time childcare in place, despite working from home — even if that means working solely to cover the costs of her nursery and au pair.
Lady, have you ever heard to Nap Time?
Being a stay-at-home-Dad/author is something we know an awful lot about. During the winter of 2007 we wrote a dozen magazine articles while staying home with our first born. You see, babies take naps. Not only that, but babies get really interested in bright shiny things like Christmas tree lights or day we say, Elmo. So one can put them down in front of the TV and write for a while, or even clean, cook, or just have a cup of coffee.
This is modern feminism. Someone told Natasha she could have it all. No honey, you can't.
Remember, Feminism is always bad for women.
working solely to cover the costs of her nursery and au pair
ReplyDeleteor like millions of Americans since the time of the colonies...do without!
being with my daughter every day doesn't bring me, or her, the happiness and fulfilment I had hoped for
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The fulfilment of a child is being with you....the more I read her writing the more I think she had a child as an accessory to her self image and not the awesome(as in great not cool) responsibility it really is.
This is so true. It's not about how you feel. It's about the kid.
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